Thursday, February 6, 2014

faster scale

i want to keep this in a place i can refer to quickly

Get back to:
Restoration – (Accepting life on God’s terms, with trust, grace, mercy, vulnerability and gratitude.) No current secrets; working to resolve problems, identifying fears and feelings; keeping commitments to meetings, prayer, family, church, people, goals, self; being open and honest, making eye contact; increasing in relationships with God and others; true accountability. *** don't need to be offended. There is more than you know. More for you to do. Let yourself be more happy.
 
FASTER Scale 
  • Forgetting Priorities – (Start believing the present circumstances and move away from trusting God. Denial, Flight, A change in what’s important, How you spend your time, energy, and thoughts.) Secrets; less time/energy for God, meetings, church; avoiding support and accountability people; superficial conversations; sarcasm; isolating; changes in priorities and goals; obsessed with relationships you perceive meet needs; breaking promises & commitments; neglecting family; preoccupation with material things, T.V., computers, entertainment; procrastination; lying; over-confidence; bored; hiding money.
  • Anxiety – (A growing background noise of undefined fear; getting energy from emotions.) Worry; using profanity; being fearful;being resentful; replaying old, negative thoughts; perfectionism; judging other’s motives; making goals and lists that you can’t complete; mind reading; fantasy, co-dependent rescuing; sleep problems; trouble concentrating; seeking/creating drama; gossip; using over-the-counter medication for pain, sleep or weight control; flirting; masturbation; pornography; poor planning 
  • Speeding Up – (Trying to outrun the anxiety which is usually the first sign of depression.) Super busy and always in a hurry (finding good reason to justify the work), workaholic, can’t relax; avoiding slowing down; feeling driven; can’t turn off thoughts; skipping meals; binge eating (usually at night); overspending; can’t identify own feelings/needs; repetitive negative thoughts; irritable; dramatic mood swings; too much caffeine; over exercising; nervousness; difficulty being alone and/or with people; difficulty listening to others; making excuses for having to “do it all”; avoiding support; lust 
  • Ticked Off – (Getting adrenaline high on anger and aggression.) Procrastination causing crisis in money, work, and relationships; increased sarcasm; black and white (all or nothing) thinking; feeling alone; nobody understands; overreacting, road rage; constant resentments; pushing others away; increasing isolation; blaming; arguing; irrational thinking; can’t take criticism; defensive; people avoiding you; needing to be right; digestive problems; headaches; obsessive (stuck) thoughts; can’t forgive; feeling superior; using intimidation. 
  • Exhausted – (Loss of physical and emotional energy; coming off the adrenaline high and the onset of depression.) Depressed; panicked; confused; hopelessness; sleeping too much or too little; can’t cope; overwhelmed; crying for “no reason”; can’t think; forgetful; pessimistic; helpless; tired; numb; wanting to run; constant cravings for old coping behaviors; thinking of using sex, drugs, or alcohol; seeking old unhealthy people & places; really isolating; people angry with you; self abuse; suicidal thoughts; spontaneous crying; no goals; survival mode; not returning phone calls; missing work, irritability; no appetite
  • Relapse – (Returning to the place you swore you would never go again.) Giving up and giving in; out of control; lost in your addiction; lying to yourself and others; feeling you just can’t manage without your coping behaviors, at least for now. The result is the reinforcement of shame, guilt and condemnation, and feelings of abandonment and being alone.

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